Aspergers and Infatuation

It seems to be a common topic of concern among many people with OCD or people on the Autism Spectrum.  We meet someone that we fancy a lot.  This ends up getting us into a lot of trouble if we are not careful with our emotions.  A normal thinking person could easily go through this stage as well, but end up learning their lessons early on in life.

The most important thing to learn about infatuation is this: it's a big crush that you happen to have on someone else.  It may not last for long.  The majority of the time I am infatuated with someone, I never end up dating them or in any sort of relationship with them.  In fact, I find they usually ignore me after a week or two.  These types of people always come and go.  The ones that don't go away fast enough though don't know how to express themselves, or they just happen to like the attention they are getting from me.  Only once can I recall actually being with someone I was infatuated with.  This person didn't like me at all after all was said and done.

It's important to realize that infatuation isn't love at all.  It's more or less an obsession.  You have this desire to know who the other person is despite their unwillingness or lack of comfort in opening up to you.  For some, the infatuation might make the person do something really ridiculous as well.  Be careful not to find out information about this person behind their back as they will not like this.  I find it quite rare that a person would do this, but infatuation can lead people to do things that really make the other person in this matter feel very uncomfortable.  If not careful controlling your infatuation, you will likely end up being told "I don't want you contacting me again." or worse.  I recommend listening since noone likes to be harassed.

So there you have it.  You might find yourself very interested in someone else, but the emotions aren't where they should be.  Your mind could possibly race all over the place as well.  Don't mistake infatuation with love either.  Love and compassion is listening when one opens up anyway.  Infatuation is more or less a person who takes a lot of interest in another individual, and maybe to the point of asking that person more than they would like to volunteer.