Yesterday I went through the negative. I will admit the reason why I posted it was because I got stood up. Too many times I have got stood up or had a women not reply to a phone call or text or who knows what? In those situations, I let my thoughts take over because of how upset I was, and if the woman was still interested before, she definitely wasn't now. This is a situation you have to go with your instinct because you can't always let your mind win. If you are wondering if a person is worth it, listen to your gut, not your mind. Once you have done that, act accordingly and don't get upset. Just ask questions and listen to the answers, or read if you are getting the message back by text/e-mail.
Speaking of listening to the answers, that brings me to the first positive of dating an Aspie. How many men do women date, or vice versa, where the conversations are pretty one-sided because one person didn't listen. Well, going on to the body language again, this is what helps NTs in this situation. But when it comes to listening, an Aspie has a tendency to listen. It is also really strange too, because the body language that an Aspie would give off may indicate that we are in fact not listening to you. But trust me, we are. We may just be focused on something else at the same time. The one problem the NT may have in this situation is that the Aspie may not understand the context of what they were told. This can be worked on as Aspies are intelligent people.
Positive reason #2. A lot of people who are friends with Aspies know just how loyal an Aspie can be. Imagine having a boyfriend or girlfriend who may eventually become your husband or wife that won't cheat on you because he/she remains loyal to you through thick and thin. Doesn't mean we will accept you cheating on us though. I am not certain how other Aspies treat dishonesty, disloyalty, or being betrayed, but I lose all trust in a person when betrayed. I also have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. This may contradict the loyalty component of an Aspie. But provided you give us no reason to lose our faith in you, the Aspie should remain loyal at all times.
Positive reason #3. Not many Aspies I have met myself are difficult people to talk to when you get to know them. In fact, some are pleasant people right off the bat. I am often cracking jokes and one-liners and being witty and sarcastic with the people I know. I do my best in some situations to lighten the mood at work. Work can be pretty miserable at times, even I know this. Sometimes I am miserable, but I actually feel good knowing that I can get at least one person to laugh at some jokes I say, and make others smile as well. The funny thing is that people think I am not as pleasant as I really am because I sometimes lack emotion. There are some mixed signals when it comes to our facial expressions as well. Despite that, most people find Aspies very likable. Maybe a chance at being loved and who knows where it will take them.
Positive reason #4. We can be very intelligent human beings. So intelligent that when we put our minds to something, something big can happen. Bill Gates is said to be an Aspie, and he made billions of dollars for Microsoft as their Chairman or CEO. Gates is one of the most intelligent men on the planet and he was able to accomplish what he did because of his Aspies. And guess what folks? He is happily married as well. And to go with the pleasant human being part, Gates does donate money to charity too (although not as much as people think he should, but that's just opinion). Albert Einstien is rumored to have had AS as well.
There may be more positive reasons than what I have said. I may add more later
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