Self-defeating behaviours part 1: Understanding Emotions

I have come across the three types of underlying causes to what got me diagnosed with Aspergers in the first place when I was 11 years old.  These underlying causes are Anger, Anxiety and Depression.  Sure there might be some OCD types of behaviours like a desire for routine, but this might just be normal.  Everyone desires routine.  The real problems are the Anger, Anxiety and Depression.

Anger management issues is probably the main cause of improper expression of your feelings.  Easily the biggest problem.  While anxiety does play it's role in it as well, expressing your pain is just the beginning stage of a depressive episode if not dealt with properly.  First let's focus on the anger management problem.

Anger management issues can easily result in a person who doesn't reveal what it is he wants, or doesn't even express their feelings for other people.  Proper display of such feelings often shows a confident person.  Proper display of anger actually helps a person.  Improper display of anger as evidence from a previous blog post will show a person who bottles up their feelings or can't take no for an answer.  This is the big confidence issue.  But what causes someone to bottle up their feelings?  Depends on the person and the situation.  But a person who likely has anger management issues is likely to pick the path of least resistance in arguments and will also likely have problems being taken seriously.

The anger management issues then leads to fear.  A fearful person is just to afraid to move forward and be tested in life.  A person who is afraid can’t succeed or even fail.  There were no tests to be taken.  Fear often leads to broken friendships and relationships and was likely due to the path of least resistance.  When one chooses the path of least resistance, they often convey to other people that they are too afraid to stand up for themselves.  All this started from anger management issues.

Now of course, from all this bottling up your feelings comes sadness and a lot of self-hatred.  A lot of self-abuse took place because it is possible there was no abuse from other people.  There was no abuse because the person being abused didn’t speak up his feelings ahead of time.  That’s the way others are going to see it even if you truly did get abused.  The depression stage often leads to isolation.  It also leads to a lot of anger directed inwards and a loss of faith in one’s self.  This is the stage in which it is obvious to others that you have no respect for anyone since you probably didn’t have respect for yourself.

Part 2 will focus on the Meltdown aspect and the sensory issues.