Taking responsibility vs beating yourself up.

This post is simply about the idea of letting go of the past.  It's about letting go of past relationships and past pains and friendships that are of no use to you anymore.  This is about the small decisions you make that have an impact on what you do with your life.  This is about letting go of any pain and moving on to a higher purpose and better life.  This post is essentially about taking responsibility for your actions and letting go.

Beating yourself up:
Have you ever had that deep feeling of regret or guilt in you for doing something bad to someone else?  What was it that you did that was so bad anyway?  Let's just say you hurt a person you care for and it hurts you that you did that.  Do you think simply apologizing for it is the best option?  Apologizing for your actions is not necessarily going to help you recover from it as you still might be beating yourself up over the issue.  Realize the truth that you will hurt other people that you care about deeply, and remember that they do it all the time as well.  Do they ever apologize for it?  Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.  You don't have to apologize for everything you do.  Sometimes you hurt people by making decisions that are in your best interest.  There is no reason in apologizing when it comes to deciding what is in yours and everyone else's best interest.  Furthermore, there is no excuse for apologizing for your feelings either.
You should not beat yourself up over anything.  It's hard to enjoy life as it is if you are going to be hard on your self.  Next time you hurt a person's feelings, take that one day off work because you are sick, show up late to something once, forget an important date, or even break up with someone.... remember that things happen for a reason.  Being too hard on yourself is not letting go and it certainly isn't responsible behaviour either.  I have mentioned the ego in previous blogs.  Your ego wants you to justify your actions rather than take responsibility anyway.

Taking responsibility for your actions:
For everything you do in your life, you are responsible for it.  You are responsible for calling into work late or sick, and you are responsible when your actions hurt someone else.  You are responsible for your own life and who you chose to have in it.  You are responsible for the career choice that you make and you are responsible for what you do right now.  Noone else made you do anything, and you certainly can't beat yourself up over the decision you make.  Take responsibility for yourself and grow.
It is important to remember that your ego and your mind simply wants you to justify your actions.  I have already stated that this is not responsible behaviour.  Apologizing for any bad behaviour is not responsible behaviour either.  Saying "I'm sorry" is pretty much justifying your actions when you deem it necessary to do so.  It appears in this world that people that are happy take responsibility for their actions.  They take full responsibility of their failures and successes.  Noone else makes you a failure or a success, only you can.
Next time you are thinking of saying "I'm Sorry," don't do it.  Realize that the words don't mean anything.  Taking responsibility means a lot more than words ever will.